We go through seasons where we become unbalanced and focused on giving to others and neglecting ourselves. Giving stimulates the same neural networks in the brain that activate when eating a cookie or running warm water over cold hands. It is a deep-seated gratification that makes us feel good; before, during and after.

But how do we feel when we “give to ourselves”?

It is rare for us to say that we would “give something” to ourselves, and instead, we usually say we are doing it or buying it ourselves. While the act may be the same, it loses its sense of gratification by phrasing it differently. The only dissimilarity is in the mindset.

Giving, or gifting, to yourself may sound selfish to some, but self-care is important. And... when you give more to yourself, you have more to offer others. It’s about following the fluidic science of flow; nothing will come out if nothing is coming in.

We aren’t necessarily talking about material possessions either – these gifts can’t all be wrapped. This attitude can be applied to a variety of intangible practices, garnering a feeling of gratitude where, before, there may have been reluctance. Here are some examples.

Goal setting and dream casting

What are we giving ourselves when we set goals and define our dreams? For starters, we’re not just allowing the needs of others to govern our days. We also generate a healthy sense of purpose, something to work towards, self-worth and ultimately, a feeling of accomplishment. We deserve these things, and there is literally nothing holding us back from gifting them to ourselves. Decide what you want to achieve academically, personally and professionally.

Ask for help

We’ve just written a blog on this; asking for help is a sign of strength. View it as giving yourself the support that you deserve. You wouldn’t expect those around you to bear the weight of the world on their shoulders alone, and you shouldn’t have to go through it either. Request guidance if you are feeling lost on a matter; at least gift yourself that.

Shake it up

Routines help us stay on track. They provide a feeling of security and safety. The only downside is that they can grow a bit boring and stale. We need variation in our lives. Give yourself some adventure. Change up your running route, toss blueberries in your breakfast, explore new places, listen to new music, learn a new skill, put up a bookshelf or bake a new dish. You’ll thank yourself afterwards.

That’s what it comes down to in the end, being thankful. During the time of year when we are constantly told to be thankful to others, let’s not forget to be thankful to ourselves.